Terre with TC Live co-host Elizabeth Ries for the "Sex Ed at Any Age" segment on Twin Cities Live

On Tuesday afternoon, I was a guest on Twin Cities Live with a segment called “Sex Ed at Any Age”.  It was a hoot.  Here’s the link to the segment:  http://twincitieslive.com/article/stories/S1575617.shtml?cat=11137

Terre Thomas, a twirling tingling fairy godmother

The Tingle …that marvelous, sexy, sensuous feeling that radiates from within.

Welcome to the blog that’s all about that “tingle”.  About eight years ago, the drops in my hormone levels became noticeable and I decided that I wanted to learn, observe, understand, and appreciate this change in my life, especially the impact in had on my body and my libido.

I quickly learned that every woman has changes, with varying degrees of intensity but across the board, most women experience a dramatic drop in their sexual desire…. and who are you going to call about it? Ghostbusters? I don’t think so.

Who do you call? Frankly, from the hundreds of conversations I’ve had with other women, at my shop and in classes I teach, it’s not easy finding the answers.

As a fairy godmother, my work, my calling, is to tenderly “see” others in the light of their uniqueness – their gifts, their spirit, their wishes – and then help them, in big and little ways, to be more fully who they are. Sometimes it’s with a little encouragement, sometimes it’s with information, and in the case of diminished libidos, it’s help with perspective, advice, and recommendations about sexuality, anatomy, vibrators, other erotic accessories, and erotica .  And, yes, I’m now  an expert on vibrators!

Spiritually and emotionally, this sex thing is pretty complex. It is for everyone, I think. At 51, I’m at the tail end of the baby boomers and I think it’s safe to say that most of us got our formal sex education (if we got any at all) from school presentations that were clinical and primarily geared toward instilling the fear of unplanned pregnancy as the most important message regarding our emerging, raging, sexual energy. I’ve yet to meet a woman whose formal sexual education even mentioned an orgasm or the clitoris!

And informally, it wasn’t much better. Most of our informal sex ed came from television and movies that erroneously depict women experiencing fabulous orgasms strictly through intercourse (which, in reality, happens for about one in five women). And then of course, we relied on our goofy teenage friends and sweethearts for the trial and error “hands-on” training.

And now, after thirty-some years of letting our “inner teenager” rule our sex lives, we have the time, maturity, and interest in finding new and better ways to enjoy it. It’s gonna take a little courage and the right resources, but the great thing is that it’s there – and nothing but more pleasure awaits you, whether you’re solo or with a partner.

So with this blog, I’ll share the information, secrets, and foibles of finding the Tingle and enjoying it lots more.  And this blog will be a forum for you, dear reader, to ask questions you really want to ask, even if they make you blush.  Next week, I’ll post some of the questions I’ve been asked by women who have attended my Restore the Tingle workshops over the years.